When I was single, I used to dream about the guy I would someday marry. The list of attributes were long and somewhat ridiculous. I thought he would have a certain hair color, a voice that sent chills through me when he sang, and of course, an immense love for God. When I met my husband, he only fit the final attribute on this list. We actually laughed, because I didn’t meet most of his criteria either.
God answered our prayers for a spouse in His own way. I’m glad He saw fit to put a man of His design in my life, not one I thought up. But despite the blessings of a spouse and the wonder of marriage, sometimes I still think about that single girl, the one I was before we met. I wonder how to express the importance of contentment to her friends.
Marriage is wonderful, but even more valuable than your relationship status is your heart before God.
Matthew 22:37-38 says it like this:
And He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the great and foremost commandment.
If we could get this right, maybe we’d understand the value in singleness. Maybe we’d spend our time focused on the greatest relationship, growing closer to God, and potentially becoming a better spouse for some future guy. Don’t get me wrong, marriage is a huge blessing. I love my husband, and I know God brought Him into my life. But single or married, God has always called me to His side first. Cultivating a love for Him only prepares me better for a life of His choosing. When I truly love God, whatever life He calls me to, I can find contentment in the depths of His love for me. Despite my husband’s best efforts, no love is greater. So if you’re starting 2017 single and hoping to someday marry, maybe first pursue the one love that satisfies. And if you’re married and struggling to find contentment, perhaps you’re looking for love in the wrong places.