Procrastination is something we all struggle through. It seems easier to let the house go or the dishes wait. That’s why we all ooh and aw at the house with the perfect lawn. It’s rare to find, because it takes so much initiative and work to create.
Why do we procrastinate? Well, the answers fairly simple– we are all self-seeking. We sometimes put our desires above the need to complete a chore. It is often the reason so many people end up struggling with their weight, the reason we love a good vacation, the motivation behind a lot of what we do.
However, the real problem starts when we allow this pursuit of “self” to enter our marriages. Scripture tells us that “love is not self-seeking”. What’s the very practical, real application of this verse? Are there any models in scripture of someone who was “not self-seeking”?
Immediately as I pondered these questions, I thought of Ruth. Ruth stayed with her mother-in-law and traveled to a foreign land. She went out daily to gather and provide food for them both. Her actions did not go unnoticed. She earns favor in the eyes of Boaz.
Similarly, when we replace our actions with the heart of someone who is willing to serve others, it shows the dedication and pursuit of the person we choose to serve. This other-seeking attitude will stand out, and it will cause others to notice our heart.
Colossians 3:23 Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men.
Our marriage should be a model of the churches love for Christ. We should be willing to re-prioritize and place the needs of our spouse first.